How do you move on when something happens?For me the best way to accept something like cutting off a person is thinking about the things that are much better without that person around, such as if you fought a lot think about how nice it is now that you're not fighting anymore, and that you now have much more energy without that person around or that you feel much better about yourself now that the person isn't around anymore who used to put you down
I've been in treatment for years & still get stuck when something happens. I still think about fight with my then partner. Sometimes it's something that happened once upon a time at work (& I haven't worked in months).
Providers say "just be mindful" or "just accept it" without actually helping me learn how to accept it.
What works for you?
How do you move on when something happens?I think it depends on the type of event. Each event has its own method of coping... such as mourning the loss of a loved one is different from fighting someone and regretting it. Do you want something specific so I can narrow down my answer?
I've been in treatment for years & still get stuck when something happens. I still think about fight with my then partner. Sometimes it's something that happened once upon a time at work (& I haven't worked in months).
Providers say "just be mindful" or "just accept it" without actually helping me learn how to accept it.
What works for you?
i specifically mean residential over temporary inpatient, like when you stay for like 30-60 days, but even if you've went like a week in an inpatient hospital that'd still be helpfulI am interested in trying residential, too. Most of the ones in my area are 90+ days. In my area, they are also super expensive (thousands per day), but this likely depends on what country you are in and how healthcare is handled (i.e. private insurance vs. socialized medicine).
How do you move on when something happens?Great question Cinnamon. I have struggled with this too for most of my life. I used to constantly re-live encounters, conversations and conflicts I’d had with people and even ones I haven’t had, constantly focusing on the negative. It was one part of the negative self talk that ruled my head and drove my depression, and no matter how much progress I made through counselling it seemed to be part of me and i couldn't shake it. I had a wonderful psychologist who helped me a lot but she couldnt seem to help me on this matter. She offered the same solutions btw (e.g. mindfulness, ‘accept it and move on’) and when she finally suggested I ‘fake it til you make it’ i realised she had nothing of value to offer me and i felt totally alone - I felt like screaming and punching her but could see that she knew that she was out of answers. Anyway, she helped me build up a sense of a positive self-worth and love of myself (well i stopped hating myself at least). And one day I saw a quote that influenced my way of thinking - “Don't think less of yourself but think of yourself less” (originally by Rick Warren, ‘Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself’). And since reading that quote i have practised thinking less about the negative conversations and conflicts i have had with people and importantly about those that I haven’t had with people. I’ve stopped creating so many negative thoughts in my head and it has helped stop drive me into depression and depressive thoughts. The trick of course is finding something else to focus on and that involves looking outward into the world. I started focussing on the small things, in nature for example, or patterns on a wall, artwork, etc. It only needed to be a minute or so at a time, enough time to break the cycle. It is important to know that you are trying to change behaviour by creating a new one and a new routine. It takes a conscious effort particularly at first but it might be worth trying. You don't need to do it for long periods of time. I found benefit in doing this some days for just a few times, a few minutes a day. After a time I found myself thinking less the way i used to, though of course i have to be vigilant because I fall into old behaviours sometimes.
I've been in treatment for years & still get stuck when something happens. I still think about fight with my then partner. Sometimes it's something that happened once upon a time at work (& I haven't worked in months).
Providers say "just be mindful" or "just accept it" without actually helping me learn how to accept it.
What works for you?
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The Internet republic of Ximbo lands is the worlds first Internet republic.
What is its mission?
To unite the world.
Where is MissBimbo.com? Miss Bimbo was much better than this site.
The Internet republic of Ximbo land was created by Miss Bimbo herself and is its more
intelligent successor. The old site was for junior bimbos. This site is for intelligent Ximbos.
What is the national flag of Ximbo land?
When was the Internet republic of Ximbo land
founded
2007
What is the capital city of the Internet republic of
Ximbo land?
Bimbo City
How many states make up the internet republic of
Ximbo land?
There are 6 states that make up the internet republic of Ximbo lands. They are
Atheistia, Freethinkerland, Reasonopia, Agnostica, Secville, and Antitheocra. Bimbo City is the neutral administrative
capital and is its own city zone. Boob Island is the home of the President of the Internet republic of Ximbo land
What is a Ximbo citizen?
A ‘Ximbo’ or ‘Ximbo citizen’ is a member of the internet republic of Ximbolands
community.
How can I become a Ximbo citizen?
In order to become a citizen of Ximboland you must first pass the Ximbolands citizens
test. It is free to become a Ximbo citizen.
What is a Ximbo senator?
A Ximbo senator is a senior member of the Internet republic of Ximbo land. Only senators
are eligible to put themselves forward for election to become State Ministers and then ultimately the Prime
Ximbo.
Who is the Prime Ximbo?
The Prime Ximbo is the democratically elected head of the Internet republic of Ximbo
land.
Where does the Prime Ximbo live?
The Prime Ximbo lives in the Pink House for the 4 month term they are in office.
I want to become Prime Ximbo. How do I do
that?
Any Ximbo citizen can become Prime Ximbo using the democratic process. Its a 3 stage
process from Senator>State Minister> Prime Ximbo. All Ximbo citizens can vote in general elections but in order to
put themselves forward to become Prime Ximbo they must first become a Ximbo senator. All Ximbo senators are
electable as state ministers. State Minister elections take place every 4 months also. Only state ministers are eligible
to then become the Prime Ximbo.
Can I become Prime Ximbo more than once?
Yes a Ximbo can hold the position of Prime Ximbo for 3 terms max.
How often do elections take place?
The Internet republic of Ximbolands holds elections every 4 months for Prime Ximbo and 4
months for State Minister.
Where do important discussions take place?
The Forum.
What is the treasury/Prime Ximbos salary?
The treasury/salary is the bank account of the Internet republic of Ximbo land. This figure
is transferred to the paypal account of the Prime Ximbo at the end of their 4 month term in charge.
How is the treasury calculated?
The treasury is funded by the Ximbo citizens.
A percentage of the money paid by Ximbo citizens via Paypal and SMS is transferred into the Ximbo treasury.
The rest is wisely used for further game development.
What's the national colour of Ximbo land?
Pink
How old must I be in order to become a Ximbo land
citizen?
Anyone over the age of 18 are welcome to become a Ximbo citizen.
When are the national holidays of Ximbo
land?
Jan 1st New years day
Feb 12th Darwin day
Feb 14th Lovers day
March 8th Womens day
March 21st Spring solstice
April 13th The Hitchslap Day (Christopher Hitchens birthday)
May 3rd National day of reason
June 21st World Humanist Day
Aug 2nd The Internet republic of Ximbo land national day
Sep 21st Peace one day
Dec 25th Newtons birthday
What is the currency of Ximbo land?
The Ximbo Dollar (B$). Currently it is pegged in value to the US$
Who is the President of Ximbo land?
Miss Bimbo is the president of Ximbo land. She founded the bimbo nation in 2007 after
escaping the tyranny, bigotry and and conservatism of the old world. You can read more about her here
and here
