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CinnamonSugar
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Freethinkerland
23.08.2020 20:04:02
CinnamonSugar

PlushKlavier wrote:
what I know about living in a residential treatment facility in general that isn't meant for temporary homing is that it is mostly assisted living on a schedule, you get your own little room, there's a curfew, there's a schedule of activities the residents have to do, and depending on what kind of facility it is the staff are either very involved or barely involved in your daily life
Thank you for responding. My understanding is that there are different types of residential facilities. I know people who was in one relatively short-term (3 months) & I know people who have been in them 2+ years. Some are more like group homes. Some are more like inpatient hospitals, but long term. Some are like assisted living for people who have difficulty functioning on their own, including having their meds dispensed by nurses. Other places let residents keep low amounts of meds (1 week at a time, for safety reasons). Some provide daily therapy, some don't. 

I might be interested in trying one that provides daily therapy, because weekly or twice weekly therapy just doesn't cut it for me. I also kind of like the idea of having, say, 3 months break from the outside world. Like, it would be nice to have a break from dealing with the things that stress me out. But I am worried that after those 3 months are up, I would return to the real world & get overwhelmed again. It would be interesting to hear if others have made this transition before. 

My parents think daily therapy wouldn't help anyway, because I have been inpatient & partial hospital (day programs) multiple times without relief. But these provide groups that are not tailored to me. When other patients are actively psychotic & acting up, group isn't very therapeutic. I've literally been in groups with people who strip, hump the walls, see/hear things, throw things, etc. Then, the people running the groups (sometimes therapists, but sometimes med techs or peer specialists) have to focus on trying to get their clothes back on or otherwise address that patient's behavior instead of really running a therapeutic group.

I think if a residential provided individual counseling, I would actually be addressing my issues. 

23.08.2020 20:04:02
“If you know someone who’s depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather.” ~Stephen Fry
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PlushKlavier
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Reasonopia
23.08.2020 20:14:05
PlushKlavier

Oh yeah, daily individual therapy sounds like it would definitely help more than what you had before
And I understand you on being afraid of returning to the real world on your own, I have heard stories of people getting so used to the structured living of a residential facility they can't live on their own anymore the moment they get out because they don't have any structure on their own and have to be taken back in again, then the cycle repeats itself, but if your therapist can help you prepare for that I think things will turn out to be okay!

23.08.2020 20:14:05

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Freethinkerland
28.08.2020 12:55:45
CinnamonSugar

I'm ruminating about something. 10 years of treatment & I still haven't learned to unstick myself when I get stuck thinking about something.   :(

28.08.2020 12:55:45
“If you know someone who’s depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather.” ~Stephen Fry
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Atheista
03.09.2020 02:33:29
Bimbo Bear

hey, i don't want to derail the thread, but I have a question to ask, and idk, I just felt like for some reason, maybe this would be a good thread to ask it.

TW: rape

i'm... just processing... that someone i was in a relationship with for a long time, mistreated me sexually, and that the last time we had sex was, unequivocally, rape. I've talked to my friends, and they've been wonderful and supportive, and they said, maybe I should seek some kind of professional help. But, I don't want to see anyone in person, and I've, had a bad experience in the past with a therapist, so i've also got some trauma there that would make it hard for me to see someone. just, any advice anyone has would be helpful, especially about, how to take recovering from trauma into my own hands, books I can read that might help....
i wish i felt safe getting a tattoo or piercing right now, but I think I'm going to get a haircut soon (my barber has a new space, and is keeping things really fucking sanitary.) I want to feel at home in my body again. I feel... I feel like in Calvin and Hobbes, the series of strips about them getting robbed.



03.09.2020 02:33:29
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CinnamonSugar
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Freethinkerland
03.09.2020 10:28:33
CinnamonSugar

Thank you for sharing that. I don't feel like you derailed the thread. This thread should be for everyone's mental health, regardless of whether or not they have a diagnosis or what they are dealing with.

I understand your choice to avoid traditional talk therapy. I personally have had some bad experiences with therapists name calling & gaslighting me. 

There are different forms of therapy, though, like art therapy & music therapy, which you could do on your own. Basically, the point is to develop a healthy form of expression, rather than to create a masterpiece. For example, someone who is angry may scribble furiously with a marker, rather than something destructive like punching a wall.

Personally, I like the feeling of smearing oil pastels with my fingers. I just draw lines with different oil pastels & then smudge them together.

Others like to write song lyrics or make their own beats to express themselves. I've also heard of people using dance, martial arts, or yoga as forms of expression, too. I don't think it so much matters how you choose to express yourself, so much as that you find a way to express your feelings in a way that does not harm yourself or others.

I also have heard that EMDR & tapping may be helpful for trauma, but I don't know much about them. I think you can do tapping on your own. My understanding is that it is tapping certain points on the body.

When I was working with a trauma therapist, she had recommended meditation & mindfulness. I personally didn't find it very helpful most of the time. But, on the rare occasions that I had a full-on flashback or awoke from a traumatic nightmare, there were grounding techniques I could use to re-orient myself to the present. If you are dealing with either flashbacks or nightmares, we can discuss it further.

If you don't want to talk to a therapist but do want to vent to someone, there may be free services, depending on where you live. Some countries offer "warmlines," kind of like a suicide hotline but for people dealing with any issue who just want to talk. The Samaritans, an organization based in the UK, offers an email version that can be used by anyone in the world, but the response time is slower (~24 hours).

If you are having trouble sleeping, like in the comic, there are lots of non-pharmaceutical options. Most people have probably heard of melatonin. Personally, I find L-theanine helps my anxiety & rumination, but others like GABA. Some people like CBD. Some people like herbs (skullcap, kava, chamomile, valerian, hops, lavender, and many more). Although, I will say that supplements are not always well-regulated, so you may end up with a product that is contaminated. Supplements may also interact with prescription medications, if you are on any. So, I would not recommend you experiment on your own. There may be herbalists, naturopaths,or natural pharmacists in your area to help you. At the very least, do some research & find supplement brands that offer third-party testing, which means a company other than themselves tests the products for purity to make sure there are no contaminants.

I hope that you are physically well & that you are on the road to healing emotionally. 





03.09.2020 10:28:33
“If you know someone who’s depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather.” ~Stephen Fry
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cowboy
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Atheista
03.09.2020 18:48:38
cowboy

Bimbo Bear wrote:
hey, i don't want to derail the thread, but I have a question to ask, and idk, I just felt like for some reason, maybe this would be a good thread to ask it.

TW: rape
god im so sorry to hear that. in all honesty, everyone copes with these things differently. what I learned is you can't rush it. these things take a long time to heal from sometimes, especially if you were harmed by someone you cared about. no amount of therapy or calming hobbies can rush that process. they can help you to develop important coping mechanisms and healthier ways of dealing with the way you feel, though, and i'm rlly not saying don't seek professional support bc it can make a lot of difference to your wellbeing after something like this. just know that when you feel frustrated or you feel like you should have been able to move on, that these things take a stupid amount of time.

don't feel rushed to seek professional help. it might be good to take some time to process your feelings first, or discussing it in detail may make you feel much worse. seeing a therapist at some point is a great idea, even if you're worried they might not help you. but for now make sure you feel comfortable to take that step.

i think getting a tattoo or a haircut is a great coping mechanism when you feel like you lack power over your own body. it can also work as a good grounding exercise, since you'll be focusing on your physical body more and viewing it more positively.

i'm not a professional by any means, but i've learned some things in my own recovery. i can offer advice or support if you need it. feel free to message me anytime.
if you'd rather speak to someone anonymously, theres a website called 7cupsoftea that lets you speak to volunteer listeners. with your country we can probably track down some services available to you more locally who might have a free call or text service available as well, if you're willing to share.

look after yourself. 



03.09.2020 18:48:38
 
Sarahxbunny
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Freethinkerland
04.09.2020 02:49:24
Sarahxbunny

Bimbo Bear wrote:
hey, i don't want to derail the thread, but I have a question to ask, and idk, I just felt like for some reason, maybe this would be a good thread to ask it.

TW: rape
CinnamonSugar and cowboy have offered great advice. Therapists can be great in helping you heal if you find a good one and the right one for you. But finding a good one isnt easy and is enough to stop some people from seeking help. The value of a good therapist is that they will get you to talk. Books can be helpful but they are hit and miss, what resonates for one person won’t mean much for another. Unless a book resonates with you and makes you think about you and your life they are just someone else’s words on a page. I have seen quite a few therapists (e.g. psychiatrists, psychologists, counsellors, kinesiologists) and had mixed results. But one psychologist suggested i write and that i write whatever was on my mind the first thing that i woke up from sleeping whether it be in the morning or in the middle of the night (i wasn’t sleeping well at all at the time). So i did and i wrote about all sorts of things, some just plain weird dreams, others about very emotional and painful experiences, others letters to people. Sometimes I’d write for only 10 or 15 minutes, other times I’d spend an hour or more. Often it was very emotional and painful to write but i was alone and safe and it felt better for getting it out. Apparently when you wake from sleep your subconscious thoughts are most accessible to your conscious mind (which is why you best remember your dreams when you first wake and then often forget them soon after) and so writing about them as soon as you wake can help you process what is on your mind. It helped me a lot. If you are a creative person (you are on here so presumably you are) writing might help you process and worth through your concerns and you can do it without having to engage with others. But if you do also talk to therapists your writing can also identify things that you might want to talk about and things that you might not otherwise have considered talking about.

04.09.2020 02:49:24
Kevin Fencepeer
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Reasonopia
04.09.2020 07:24:47
Kevin Fencepeer

I'm so tired... can't do a thing these days :(

04.09.2020 07:24:47
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CinnamonSugar
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Freethinkerland
07.09.2020 13:37:34
CinnamonSugar

Some days are ok, some are terrible. 
I had trouble falling asleep last night because I was anxious. Then, once I did fall asleep, I was anxious in my dreams. Not having a good morning yet...


Edit: I also want to share a motivational image for everyone else that may be struggling. 


07.09.2020 13:37:34
“If you know someone who’s depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather.” ~Stephen Fry
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Atheista
07.09.2020 23:37:07
MaxxiMaxx

I'm not dead yet and that's the real miracle is here

07.09.2020 23:37:07
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