I second Esuna. Maybe try find your way into geek circles through local boardgame or roleplaying groups. They tend to be a crowd who understands liking things that are often seen as being "immature" hobbies. Through a local boardgames group I know people in their thirties who collect star wars lego and transformers comics and are proudly enthusiastic about it. Local gaming shops also sometimes have evenings for boardgames, miniature painting and similar hobbies which might be another way to meet some of the right people.I agree with you Hunni ^ --- board game/card clubs are becoming increasingly popular. Just comparing the people I'm friends with (though they are all nice), my friends that are more from the geek culture/graphic design group are WAY more inclusive/open/and chill in comparison to some of my high school friends. So yes the gaming/techy/art community (all forms) is, for the most part, a great place to find good friends. Another thing also would be communities within Tumblr or similar social sites, even though Tumblr was more popular years ago, I still use it to track my personal fitness journey - and the community for healthy fitness is great/supportive.
I'm 25 as well and I get what you mean in terms of feeling like you have the hobbies of somebody who is a teenager.I do meet a lot of people, but I'm affraid of most people. Not because they look scary or whatever, but everyone can be judgemental about me or to me or against me. I once walked with a group of 4 (incl me) and we were playing PokemonGo (adults.. yes..) and we sat down somewhere to win a gym or something and there came more people. Next day we tried it again and after a while I got tired (we didn't even walk that far, but my feet hurt really fast..) so I walked away while telling them I couldn't go further. They asked me to come with them, but I said no. So on my way home (alone and with no music) I started crying the whole way! Just because I thought they hated me and were now talking behind my back etc. THis was 2 months ago and I start to feel like I need to stop contacting them. But I need them for the pokemons.. :(
Are you actively trying to reach out to people but are getting shut down, or just not making the moves in order to get closer to people? I've dealt with my own depression, social anxiety and weakened self-esteem, but you have to remember that sometimes shutting down, and being difficult is not the best way to address things. People are not mind-readers, your best bet is to work on your ability to accept criticism and your ability to discuss concerns with people who are your friends/potential friends. I'm not saying this to make you feel bad, but it's something I've had to address in my own life. Why do I have limited social interaction - the problem was, in fact, myself not breaking down barriers/walls and shutting myself off rather than meeting my friends half way.
The positive light at the end of the tunnel is that there are actually A LOT of people who have interests like you, at all age ranges. I'd encourage you to perhaps check out a fan expo, or comic con as it's not just centered around video games/anime etc, a lot of times its just people who are adults but kids at heart. Look up in your area to see if there are any adult colouring nights/paint nights. Where I live there are also things such as indoor trampoline parks, jungle gyms/obstacle courses etc that adults DO go to lol, in fact, I'm going this Sunday. There are also apps for your phone that can help you find friends based around your interests (I'll have to look up the name) but it's basically tinder for friendships only. Just have faith and be open, there are people just like you - it just takes bridging the gap to get there, which can seem impossible when dealing with lots of insecurity.
I second Esuna. Maybe try find your way into geek circles through local boardgame or roleplaying groups. They tend to be a crowd who understands liking things that are often seen as being "immature" hobbies. Through a local boardgames group I know people in their thirties who collect star wars lego and transformers comics and are proudly enthusiastic about it. Local gaming shops also sometimes have evenings for boardgames, miniature painting and similar hobbies which might be another way to meet some of the right people.I LOVE boardgames!!! And no one will ever play them with me..I don't even know groups who play, even though I do know a café specially made for boardgame meeting!
I do meet a lot of people, but I'm affraid of most people. Not because they look scary or whatever, but everyone can be judgemental about me or to me or against me. I once walked with a group of 4 (incl me) and we were playing PokemonGo (adults.. yes..) and we sat down somewhere to win a gym or something and there came more people. Next day we tried it again and after a while I got tired (we didn't even walk that far, but my feet hurt really fast..) so I walked away while telling them I couldn't go further. They asked me to come with them, but I said no. So on my way home (alone and with no music) I started crying the whole way! Just because I thought they hated me and were now talking behind my back etc. THis was 2 months ago and I start to feel like I need to stop contacting them. But I need them for the pokemons.. :(I've gone through what you are going through where you are constantly around people but feel so disconnected/lonely at the end of the day as if you are not making connections. I think this is your insecurities coming through. The thing is about social anxiety is that it puts you in this state of mind where you are convinced that you are an inconvenience always to everyone else, and they are saying bad things about you etc or thinking it. The truth is most people are indifferent or don't care - my theory is ... of the total people you have met/encountered/are family/friends etc/EVERYONE - 5% truly love and care about you on a deep level, UNDER 1-2% really dislike you if that (unless someone is toxic then it might be more), leaving probably 46-47% who just like you as a person, and another 46% who are just indifferent because they don't know you at all. But we just hone in on that 1-2% that dislike us and are anxious about the 46% that are indifferent.
I feel really lonely all day. Even when around people.
It's funny you mention the trampoline park and jungle gym, because that's what I would LOVE to do, but I don't dare to go alone.
What is Ximbo land ?
The Internet republic of Ximbo lands is the worlds first Internet republic.
What is its mission?
To unite the world.
Where is MissBimbo.com? Miss Bimbo was much better than this site.
The Internet republic of Ximbo land was created by Miss Bimbo herself and is its more
intelligent successor. The old site was for junior bimbos. This site is for intelligent Ximbos.
What is the national flag of Ximbo land?
When was the Internet republic of Ximbo land
founded
2007
What is the capital city of the Internet republic of
Ximbo land?
Bimbo City
How many states make up the internet republic of
Ximbo land?
There are 6 states that make up the internet republic of Ximbo lands. They are
Atheistia, Freethinkerland, Reasonopia, Agnostica, Secville, and Antitheocra. Bimbo City is the neutral administrative
capital and is its own city zone. Boob Island is the home of the President of the Internet republic of Ximbo land
What is a Ximbo citizen?
A ‘Ximbo’ or ‘Ximbo citizen’ is a member of the internet republic of Ximbolands
community.
How can I become a Ximbo citizen?
In order to become a citizen of Ximboland you must first pass the Ximbolands citizens
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What is a Ximbo senator?
A Ximbo senator is a senior member of the Internet republic of Ximbo land. Only senators
are eligible to put themselves forward for election to become State Ministers and then ultimately the Prime
Ximbo.
Who is the Prime Ximbo?
The Prime Ximbo is the democratically elected head of the Internet republic of Ximbo
land.
Where does the Prime Ximbo live?
The Prime Ximbo lives in the Pink House for the 4 month term they are in office.
I want to become Prime Ximbo. How do I do
that?
Any Ximbo citizen can become Prime Ximbo using the democratic process. Its a 3 stage
process from Senator>State Minister> Prime Ximbo. All Ximbo citizens can vote in general elections but in order to
put themselves forward to become Prime Ximbo they must first become a Ximbo senator. All Ximbo senators are
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Can I become Prime Ximbo more than once?
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How often do elections take place?
The Internet republic of Ximbolands holds elections every 4 months for Prime Ximbo and 4
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Where do important discussions take place?
The Forum.
What is the treasury/Prime Ximbos salary?
The treasury/salary is the bank account of the Internet republic of Ximbo land. This figure
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How is the treasury calculated?
The treasury is funded by the Ximbo citizens.
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What's the national colour of Ximbo land?
Pink
How old must I be in order to become a Ximbo land
citizen?
Anyone over the age of 18 are welcome to become a Ximbo citizen.
When are the national holidays of Ximbo
land?
Jan 1st New years day
Feb 12th Darwin day
Feb 14th Lovers day
March 8th Womens day
March 21st Spring solstice
April 13th The Hitchslap Day (Christopher Hitchens birthday)
May 3rd National day of reason
June 21st World Humanist Day
Aug 2nd The Internet republic of Ximbo land national day
Sep 21st Peace one day
Dec 25th Newtons birthday
What is the currency of Ximbo land?
The Ximbo Dollar (B$). Currently it is pegged in value to the US$
Who is the President of Ximbo land?
Miss Bimbo is the president of Ximbo land. She founded the bimbo nation in 2007 after
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