I like this idea! Bumping so people see this! If I had to guess eventually the millenials would win this poll.
On the subject of punishments, I as a psychology student like to look at punishments from a psychological perspective. Punishing toddlers physically for example is just not going to work. They'll be too young to understand what they're being punished for, and they'll simply end up fearing the punisher, and maybe developing some bad associations. Like a toddler being spanked with a belt regularly might begin associating belts with pain, and in an extreme case develop a phobia of belts. The best way to "punish" a toddler is probably to separate them from the situation. Like if they throw their food on the floor, probably best to take them to another room to chill, which also gives you the space to clean up and calm down because it was probably annoying as hell.
Whereas older children are smart enough to know what they're being punished for, but also smart enough to realize that the punishment is not constructive.
I'm not a parent, so my opinion is based on what I remember thinking as a child, and what I have read about the development of children in basic psychology studies, but I think parents tend to underestimate the intelligence of their child. Often they punish or lecture their children without explaining why they are doing it, which will ultimately only antagonize the child. I believe that if you explain to a child why they shouldn't have hit their friend (because it hurts and would you enjoy being hit?), even if they will still react to this begrudgingly, they will take in the justification and ultimately accept it.
I know this is a pretty new attitude in society, partially because all modern medicine, including psychology, is pretty new.
There is this movie Bird Box, it's not a particularly good one imo, but it explores this aspect of parenthood relating to survival instinct.
The plot is that there is an invisible thing that makes humans kill themselves, and you are safe from it if you don't look at it. There's a woman who has two small children, about 6-year-olds, with her. One of them is hers, one is her dead friend's. During the whole movie the woman speaks very seriously to the children. She tells them to do exactly what she says or they will die, because in order for her to get them all to survive the children really do need to obey her. In our current society there's no longer a constant thread we need to protect children from, which has let us become softer in how we raise them. But there's obviously still situations, like if a child suddenly runs to a busy street, where you're not gonna be like "oh sweety no, come back over here so you don't die UwU" but you're gonna act fast and probably be more aggressive, because the child
needs to obey.
I'm starting to ramble sooo off topic. In summary, it interests me how our child rearing has changed with the development of medicine and society, and I would love to observe the effects of different types of child raising methods on the human brain.
Cool poll.
13.03.2020 09:25:02